What Do The Executive Clients Expect

Total Discretion... Total Discretion... Total Discretion.... oh and Total Discretion

I was chatting to a client last night, who is an executive and we got talking about his love of younger guys.  Yes I am in my mid to late 30's and he admitted that he gets turned on by discussing and having sex with guys 21-24  but added that he's found them to be the worst escorts about in terms of discretion and reliability.

It seems in London, you can pick up a guy every night of the week, 365 days of the year and still never make your way through the vast amounts of new guys, coming into escorting for the first time, some of whom only stick at the work a few weeks, some make a career out of it, however my client last night said that for reliability, especially when playing away from home, he prefers the stability of someone 30-45 who he knows is going to be reliable and respectful, hence why he makes an appointment to see me whenever he is back in Newcastle. The top and bottom of the discussion was that if you're not interested in seeing a guy for a second time and its just a bit of paid casual sex, London is ideal, but if you're 250 miles from home it's often better to see someone that you know isn't going to disappoint you or waste your valuable time.

After a few glasses of wine and a frank discussion on why guys my age are better than the twinkie twenties, we got out the handcuffs and the spanking paddle and I showed him just how dominant I can be at times, all of which was within the parameters he set, something he knows he can do with me and which other guys may struggle with because they've no idea what parameters are never mind how far you can push someone.  Fun was had by all and even though he insisted he wouldn't be able to cum during our extended appointment, I most certainly made sure he did.  I'm good !!!!

I see a number of executive guys, none of whom know each other or know about each other.  I never discuss clients, what they do for a living, where they take me etc with other clients, I keep all of that information to myself, it's a very personal experience seeing an escort and that personal experience needs to remain personal.  I am middle class and was brought up reasonably well and was taught that discretion was the key to success.  Once again last night I was dismayed to learn that an escort, whom he liked and had seen a few times took it upon himself to text my client on a number of occasions trying to drum up trade.  Yet another executive client who was horrified at this practice and who admitted it was the escorts downfall and kiss of death because he would never see an escort again who did that.  He said that I was totally discreet, he's seen me on a number of occasions and never once have I initiated any contact and that's what he likes.  He likes the fact I'm there when he needs me and he doesn't need me to be needy.  What he couldn't understand and to be honest, what I can't understand is why escorts feel it's acceptable to start contacting clients, weeks and months, after an appointment, without any due care about their personal life.

I think I get the balance right with my executive clients, they know I am very intelligent, can have a conversation about almost anything that interests them, they know I don't go telling Tom, Dick or Harry about who fucked me last night and that an appointment with me is more than an appointment, it's an experience and I am glad to say, nearly all of my successful businessmen come back to me time and time again.  I am on their wavelength and my attention to detail, discretion and all round package is second to none.

Cum In Mouth

I write this with a smirk on my face.  Not intentional but last night I went to see a regular client for the first time at his home, I have seen him on three previous occasions, always at my place but last night he couldn't get away and sent me a text asking if I could come and visit him.  Yeah... that would be good.

On the way to the appointment I received a text message from him and it said "Looking forward to feeling ur load in my mouth". I couldn't ever recall that being on the agenda before and so I went along there quite happy to oblige.  A lot of clients progress and become more "open minded" the more they trust you.

I arrived, ahead of time, but he wanted me as soon as possible anyway, walked in and he was straight onto my cock.  It was like he'd never sucked cock before and I forced him to deep throat it.  He had asked me to be a bit dominant in his previous text and what could be more dominant than being told to take it right down your throat and choke.  That turned him on and he was being super attentive but suddenly wanted the attention switched to him.  I obliged but it was apparent, quite early on, that he was going to cum far too quickly.  When I could feel his cock pulsating, I pulled off and demanded.... yes demanded.... I was being dominant.... that he suck on my dick and "take the fucker right down... you filthy bitch".  He obliged and I cum in his mouth.  He got the shock of his life and I did forewarn him it was about to happen.  He jumped up and errrmmmm, ran to the bathroom to vomit.  I felt awful, but I quickly got over it.  Anyway, after five minutes of him composing himself in the toilet.  He reappeared and it was back to business.  It didn't take him long to cum and naturally I let him dump it in my mouth.  He did forewarn me, but to be honest, guys don't need to let me know in advance, I am quite happy not knowing when it's going to happen.  It's all part of the excitement.

After we both composed ourselves I asked him if he was ok.  He was fine but it was the first time he had ever tasted spunk.  I said "But I've been told mine is nice because I am vegetarian and don't smoke".  I think the poor guy has been put off tasting it for life because if mine is supposed to taste nice, what do other guys taste like.

Personally, I don't like or dislike spunk.  I do swallow with guys I know, I usually discreetly disperse of it with newer guys but I have no choice with dominant guys with big cocks because it just goes straight down your throat with no bitter after taste anyway.  It's not that I don't trust the cum of new guys, there's very little I can catch from ingesting it, I just subconsciously decide that I will swallow the cum of regulars as an added treat for them... a sort of reward for coming back.

Anyway, I will see him again soon, he books every month or so, I think the next appointment however, will be more about the action and less about tasting the fruits of his labour.  At least he tried it hahahahahaha.  He's a nice bloke too.

Off The Clock

Whilst browsing online, last night, minding my own business, after a busy day at the office, I came across a gay escort advert.  It's someone I don't know but I stumbled across it and decided to see what sort of things he offered.  He's not local but he's a similar age and although he's not competition I often look at other gay escort profiles just to get a feel for what is out there.

It was a nice enough profile, he looked a nice enough boyish type guy, where as I am more masculine and bearded.  The thing that surprised me the most was his opening statement.  "If I am contacting you, it's because I want to have sex off the clock, if you contact me, remember I am an escort and will be charging a fee".  The first question to myself was..... "Who is he contacting "Off The Clock" that would read such an advert" and the second thought I had to myself was "That's a really frightening statement to make to potential clients".  

Clients really ... really ... really don't want escorts to contact them off the clock.  I never see guys off the clock.  I have one private arrangement, away from my day to day escorting career with a gentleman, who does contact me "off the clock", but whom I don't see, "off the clock", well, that's not strictly true, I see him for a longer time that I would with most guys and he "treats me" accordingly, if you understand what I mean and it's not a typical escorting appointment because we both genuinely like each other.  I would never entertain text messages during the week from other guys, enquiring about how I am, what I am doing, making plans for my next visit, but I will with him.  That's not off the clock, it's being genuinely nice to someone who is genuinely nice to me.  It's a mutual arrangement which we both prefer to have. I never ever contact him... like this advert implied, he contacts me, usually once a week and we see each other twice a month on average.  I would never dream of texting him and initiating a conversation but I will chat by text or phone for as long as he likes when he's able to contact me.

An escorts' role is to be there at the convenience of the client, not the other way around.  I have enough sex in my day job to want to start initiating a hook up, for want of a better word.  The last thing I think of at 9pm is a big fat cock pounding my arsehole for 30 minutes, I usually like to be tucked up in bed with a bottle of wine and watching Joan Rivers and Giuliana Rancic on Fashion Police.  If my phone rings at 9.30pm and it's a guy I know, I am happy to pause my TV and start bouncing on cock, but its not off the clock.  It's on the clock.  I would be devastated if I seen a guy off the clock and missed out on a new client in a hotel who could book me another 7 times in the next 12 months.  All that money lost because you've having some recreational sex.

One thing said to me time and time again, "God any bloke meeting you must be a lucky bloke, all this sex all the time with you, I would love to have a lover like you, who just loves riding cock".  Hmm real life isn't really like that....... do you really think I'd want to intensely shag your brains out 24/7, Off The Clock.

Touching Base

Firstly, I am sorry about the lack of blog posts for the last month or so.  I have a lot going on in my life at the moment .... all good but a lot going on and its been a funny old start to the year.

I'll start this blog post by asking "Where have all the regulars gone".  I was just saying to a very good friend at the weekend, from the end of January to the middle of February, I was booked every day, 19 days in a row and only seen 3 regular or returning gentlemen, in that period, one of whom visited me twice.  Everyone else was new.  I am not complaining, new guys could become good regular clients in the future and I always put 110% into every appointment. Let's see if a few of these new guys return in the next few months.

I've always attracted a professional clientele and the last few months have been no exception.  I have been overwhelmed by the generosity of people and I am very very happy at the moment.  When you're payed compliments on a daily basis, it really boosts your self esteem.

I have had to turn a few clients down a few times over the last few months, one of whom I think I have lost.  It couldn't be helped.  Unfortunately (or fortunately for me) I have a private arrangement away from my escorting work with someone special and some enquiries have clashed with the times I was away.  It happened twice in January with the same person and I think I have pissed him off a little.  I am sorry, I know I am nearly always available on demand but recently things changed a little and I've been having a bit of time away from home.  I work from my own home every day and so this private arrangement affords me the chance to be myself away from the glitz and filth of Steve, with someone who knows the real me.  It's meant I have not been around as much on certain weekends but I can't be on call all of the time.  I am sorry if I have missed anyone.

My weight has dropped dramatically over the last few months.  I have lost over 36 pounds in weight.  I have always been quite stocky but now I am much more slimmer, I can now slip into 32 inch Levis.  Quite an achievement !!!!  I have battled with my weight over the years and I am the lowest weight I have been in over 10 years.  I've lots of new sexy underwear too, to enhance my super tight rounded butt cheeks.  I've a few new horny jockstraps and some sexy sheer and mesh thongs.  You will like the new Steve.  I have a new selection of sporty tops, which don't stop on for long and we can always have some shower fun in my super tight speedos.

Anyway I must sign off for now.  I just wanted to check in and remind you all that I have not forgotten about the blog, I just have a lot of stuff going on, I am busy busy busy with my escorting and I have a few personal things going on too, which take up a lot of my time.

I am around 10-10 most days.  Call me on 07854 146783 and don't forget to follow my very active twitter account @stevegayescort  I post dozens of times a day with what I am up to etc.

Steve

Feedback And How Important It Is

How do you find an escort that suits your needs ?

Personal Recommendation -  Unlikely

Suck and See - Maybe

Online Presence - Extremely Likely

Feedback - Most Certainly

Feedback is great, it helps me and it helps you.  It makes me feel good about myself and it helps you to make your decision. 99% of guys don't leave feedback, many more though tell you to your face but the best feedback is when a guy books you a second, third, fourth time and its wonderful when you end up seeing someone for years.  That makes me feel wonderful and it makes you feel wonderful too because it becomes more personal because we know each other.

I am always in a loop of new guys, guys who are becoming regular, regular guys and truly loyal guys.  The truly loyal guys are the gentlemen I know don't see anyone else and I know they don't because the sex is wonderful and it's all about us, not about me and not about them, it's about us.  They enjoy their time with me as much as I do with them.

I get a nice turnover of guys who come and see me for the first time,  I would say that I have repeat appointments from 1 in every 3 guys a second time.  That's about the norm, whether you're a gay male or female escort.  Approximately 1 in every 3 are guys who won't book again, they are guys in, or visiting, Newcastle who may never return, guys who had gay feelings, acted on it and didn't feel the need to take it further, guys whose idea of the experience didn't live up to expectations and guys who felt I wasn't their type.

Being honest and realistic, I have guys who will visit me periodically.  This is maybe, once every 3 months, once every 6 months or once a year.  They're in a loop and I totally respect the fact that they may see other guys.  This doesn't bother me at all.  The fact they come back, when they can, makes me feel good.  These guys fill up my week,  every week,  quite nicely.  You rarely and I mean rarely get the guys who exclusively see you and see you regularly.  I'm lucky in this respect.  Obviously I can't be as exclusive to them as they would like me to be, but there's very little I can do about that.  Being a gay escort, in what is a somewhat specialist market, I am very lucky to be able to have such lovely gentlemen and I am lucky to have more exclusivity than many female escorts have.  They may have a few more clients than me but I do seem to have a lot more repeat appointments than they have from the same guys, time and time again.  

Feedback helps me enormously.  My rare, exclusive clients never leave feedback, my first time clients, love to leave feedback or text me with compliments.  I don't need feedback from the rare guys, but the feedback from the newbies brings in a whole wealth of new interest from guys that can sometimes turn into one of those rare gentleman who becomes exclusive to myself. Without that trust and recommendation I can't be the perfect escort that is expected of me.

Like with every escort, I am not everyone's cup of tea but the feedback helps guys make an informed decision and maybe make a decision that can make us all feel good.

Attention To Detail

One of the regular compliments paid to me is my attention to detail.  Apparently it's second to none.

Escort work is more than just sex.  Yes the shorter, fuckybuddy type appointments are just pure sex but the longer, more intimate appointments are more than just sex.  They're about giving something personal to the guy you are with and when faced with a longer appointment I research, research and research a bit more.

It's lovely to be wined and dined, have good sex and genuinely enjoy the time with a lovely man but if you are working as an escort you really need to take some time and prepare for an appointment.  If a gentleman asks to book me for an extended period of time, I always take the time to ask him, by email, text or phone, what sort of appointment he's looking for.  Some guys question why I am asking that, I am asking it because I want to make the appointment perfect.  I want you to think, "Wow" as I arrive.   I always dress accordingly to any appointment.  Hotel appointments, 4 star and above, will find me dressed in an expensive pair of designer jeans, an expensive tweed or cord jacket, a nice crisp shirt and real proper shoes, the sort of shoes you have handmade, not a pair of sale shoes from TK Maxx.  Attention to detail, when you walk into a hotel room, pays off ten fold.  If you were in a Premier Inn I'd dress almost the same but probably wouldn't wear the tweed jacket.  Nothing against guys in a Premier Inn but when I walk past reception I need to look like I am blending in, so I can get to the room without question.  The top end hotels are usually frequented by businessmen in suits, the mid range, by families, so I try and look like I belong there that evening as a resident.

If I visit a home address, the clicky shoes might be replaced with something that doesn't make such a racket when you walk up the drive and I might wear a nice fleece instead of a coat.  On those occasions, I arrive looking like the friend from work or the nephew popping in for a beer.  You have to dress accordingly.  If its a workplace, well .... I take those as they come.  I am not going to dress in a tweed jacket for a workshop, but I would wear a nice brown cord jacket for an office block.

The attention to detail doesn't stop there.  I will take toys, as requested.  If they're for his use, it will be a buttplug, a medium toy and a larger one.  If they're for him to use on me, the butt plug isn't necessary hahahaha.  If he likes it both ways, the double ender will come along.    I will always bag up all wipes, condoms and tissues and I will take it home and place it in my own bin, it's rare I leave any evidence behind.  I am always equipped with small bags, face cloths and baby wipes.  The amount of times I've been told by guys that escorts turn up with lube sachets, quite shocks me.  They're messy and the guys don't like them.  You always need to invest in a pump action bottle or four of lube.  Some guys want to use just a little bit of lube but sometimes half a bottle can go in one appointment.

If I see a guy a second time for an longer appointment, I will often take along a bottle of wine, it's an ice breaker and I don't do it all the time, I can't do it when travelling via airports but I can if I am coming by car or train.  I try to remember what sort of wine he prefers, from the previous appointment and take it along as a nice gesture.  It's my way of saying thank you and it lets him know that I appreciate his company.  

When I leave, I always say thank you for taking the time to find me online and invite me along. Depending on how well the appointment has gone and how intimate he's prepared to be, the parting gesture will be a handshake, kiss, hug or extended hug.  It's never a "pack up and see ya" departure.  I always take the time to say thank you. 

When I return for a second visit, I am told time and time again, how the attention to detail was one of the contributing factors to having me back, as well as the good sex, fun nature and intelligent conversation.  Sometimes the attention to detail is wasted on guys, they have a bad attitude and couldn't really care less that you went to all of this trouble so his time would be perfect, but on the nice gentlemen, it's very well appreciated and it goes a long way.

I don't get everything right and sometimes I forget to take stuff along, it's rare I do and I am mortified when I do but I usually get things right about 99.8% of the time.  When preparing for a longer advanced appointment, I start packing the bag 2 days before and I know that sounds silly and far fetched, but I don't want to leave the house in a hurry and have to spend a fortune on lube in Boots because I forgot to pick up my pump action bottle.  

At the moment I've a few guys I see quite regular and so I have tailored my look into what they want.  My beard is back for a start and I buy new underwear, specifically for one guy, for every liaison because he likes that attention to detail and I like the excitement of buying it, knowing he will love it and he will appreciate the fact I have gone the extra mile to make our time together fabulous.  I tell him about it in advance, just so he can anticipate what I will look like in it, spread across the bed.  This attention to detail is specific to him and he knows it is and that why he likes me so much.  I give him everything he wants, way above what he expects and I enjoy every minute of doing that.  The attention to detail makes me feel good about myself and makes me enjoy our time together even more.

Attention to detail is about preparation and research and if you can take an hour out of your day to make sure that 3 hour appointment goes well then you will be rewarded for your efforts.

Hello 2014

Hello 2014

The year 2013 was a very good year for me, I remained as popular as ever, met some lovely people and ended the year on a particular high, which happened after my final blog post of the year.  The year 2014 is looking good in many ways and I am walking into this year with a very happy outlook indeed.

I came into escort work, completely by accident.  It was never a chosen career.  If someone said to me in the mid 90s that I'd spend most of my adult life making other men "happy" I'd have thought they were absolutely bonkers.  It's an alternative career and as I was discussing with a very lovely gentleman last weekend, I could go back to a professional career but I choose not to because I actually like where I am at in life and I like what I am doing with my life.  

There's no escaping from the fact that I offer sex, I am ok with that and anyone who has met me, knows that I am not the typical guy who does this type of work and that's because I am the middle class gentleman who makes you feel good.  I don't answer to anyone, I don't discuss our time with anyone because the time we spend together is our time and it's private.  I might discuss aspects on the blog but generally what ever happens between you and I, is private and confidential.

Some appointments in 2013 were better than others, not every guy I see is great, sometimes I question what I am doing and its fair to say that at some point I might just hang up that jockstrap and move on with my life.  None of us know what is around the corner.  I am starting 2014 being very positive, I have a few personal things happening in the background and although I have an idea of where they are going, at this stage, I need to see where that adventure is taking me and what will become of it.  

When 2013 ended, I closed the blog down with an end of year recap of all the interesting things that happened in my escorting life.  My life is different every day of the week.  I get slow days, I get super busy days, I get sad days and I get happy days.  No two days are the same. In 2013 I walked into an appointment as Steve and walked out as the real me.  In other words, I walked into an appointment as Steve and walked out showing the real me, the real me that isn't Steve Gay Escort, if you understand what I mean. After years and years of doing this work, I have never let my guard down but something changed in 2013 and I ended up doing just that.  I let one person see who I really am and I don't regret that because I couldn't be Steve Gay Escort around him, it was the real me.   

My last liaison of 2013 between Christmas and New Year, after my last blog post had been published, was my most exciting yet.  I went through a whole year of seeing gentlemen, to end the year on my finest moment.  I didn't see anyone else after that because that had to be the finale to a very good year.  That was my decision to make and it was personal to me.

I wonder to myself, what 2014 will have in store for me.  At this moment in time, I don't know to be perfectly honest. I am hoping it will be a happy time for me and because I spend all of my energy making gentlemen happy, I am hoping that some of that happiness may end up being returned to me.  A lot of what I do is making sure that you are the happy party in the liaison, but I've found myself in the situation in 2013 where the gentleman I was with, made it his purpose to make me feel good about myself and I have to say, I liked that.  It was refreshing and it was nice and that's how I let my guard down.

One thing I do know in 2014 is that I will try and keep the blog as up to date as I can because my bizarre life does capture the interest of a lot of people, some of whom are just nosy, some of whom just want to read the smut, but some of whom are genuinely interested in a different life to their own, a bit of escapism where they can read about what makes a mid 30s middle class gay escort tick and how he copes with providing a very personal service in a sophisticated and eloquent way.  

Let's hope 2014 is a good year for everyone and I hope you carry on reading about the Exploits Of A Gay Newcastle Escort.

Steve x